Tuesday, 24 April 2012

What Men Really Want , Women Should Understand!!!!

Steph's Heart Talk:

How’s your love life with the guys? If you have questions and you’re not sure who to ask, talk to a mentor ...me!!!!!!! A MENTOR hehehehehehehe

Theres obviously a big contrast between what each sex thinks the opposite sex wants from them, and what the opposite sex really does want.

What women think men want from them causes women to have resentment and anger toward men, and feel hopeless about ever developing a wonderful, warm, romantic feeling or partnership. What men think women want from them causes them much of the same feelings and frustration, digust and anger towards other innocent women


Discover what men said they want from women as contrasted with what women think men want. You’ll also find tips for women to give men what they want, attract a great man, and create a wonderful relationship.

1 .Honest communication is top priority for men. They want a woman who answers questions honestly, and perhaps even volunteers information. They want a woman who confidently asks for her wants and needs to be met. They want a woman who can see the truth and tell it like it is while communicating with kindness. Men want a woman who can communicate without being too critical, who cares about preserving his and her dignity.

Women think men want them to be superficial, to keep quiet about their needs or wants, and never to ask for anything. Women think men believe them to be too needy and too sensitive, and that men simply want women to get over it. Some women believe they do not have the permission to tell it like it is, that they will be rejected for speaking up.

A tip for women
Great men want and need straightforward, courageous communication without anger or criticism. One way to attract a great man and build a satisfying relationship is to learn how to communicate your truth and needs effectively.

2. Men want self-sufficient, secure, confident women.

Men want a woman to choose them out of want rather than out of desperation — either materially or emotionally. Men need to be wanted and needed by their partners, but they want their partners to have a separate identity. Men want a woman to be active and independent, to have her own friends and interests without misusing the opportunity given to them in doing so. in other words choose your friends and interest wisely.
On the other hand, men treasure time spent with a loving partner.

Women think men don’t want women to need them. Women think men do not need or appreciate time spent together as a couple. Women believe that showing a man he is needed make his feel too important, use them, or  turn him off and possibly make him run away.

A tip for women
Men want what women want — a whole partner. 

3. Men want a manipulation-free relationship.

Men want no manipulation of any kind. They do not want to read their partner’s mind or try to interpret signals, go through their phones, eavesdrop on their conversation. They do not want to be forced to move faster in a relationship than they are ready. They do not want to be manipulated into taking all the blame for things gone wrong. They do not want to be on the receiving end of game playing.

Women think men want little or no communication, and the only way to get needs met is through manipulation. Women think men either need or want to be reminded that the relationship needs to move forward. Women think men don’t want or value praise and acknowledgment, and so tend to only verbalize criticism.

A tip for women
Men will not tolerate manipulation of any kind for any significant length of time. To attract a great man and build a wonderful relationship learn to ask without hesitation for what you want and need in every area of your life. Learn to be aware of his timing and his time-line. Learn how to acknowledge and bestow praise.

4. Men want growth, personal responsibility, and ownership.

Men want a partner who can laugh at herself and who has courage and strength. They want a woman who can see her part in relationship dynamics and own it. She has to be emotionally stable. Men want a woman who is developing herself personally, and who takes responsibility for her emotional experience.

Women think men only want to have a good time, have SEX. Women think men have no interest in developing and growing a relationship or developing and growing themselves. Women think men want women who are super models, and that they never consider whether a woman is emotionally mature, kind, supportive, or loving.

A tip for women
Men want women who are emotionally mature. Maturity does not mean lack of emotions. It does mean the ability to handle emotions responsibly without it escalating or affecting what you have been able to build so far . To attract a great man and build a long-term relationship, learn to take responsibility for your emotional experience and expression.

5. Men want fidelity and a commitment to the relationship.

Fidelity is an absolute must. In fact, men want a woman who does not have a “roaming eye” and who can wholeheartedly commit to the relationship. Many may define commitment as fidelity plus the willingness to work on the relationship — even when the going gets tough, STICK WITH YOUR MAN.

Women think that all men want is sex, and that men will leave a relationship for the next prettier face. Women think men cannot be trusted to be faithful. Women believe men do not want to work on a relationship; that when the going gets tough, they run.

A tip for women
Here is great news for those women who are resigned to the myth that all men cheat: infidelity and “a roaming eye” are as distasteful to men as they are to women. Great men know how to build a wonderful relationship, and they know fidelity is the main ingredient, they may be few, but when you find that special someone who treats you right, who has his honor...then you know you have met the"right guy".

6. Men want women who know how men need to be treated.
Many women treat men in ways that diminish their egos, making them feel inadequate, making them fell less than what they are. Men would rather have more praise, more acknowledgment of what they do right, more acknowledgment that they are great guys who are loved and appreciated.

Women think men do not need them, do not value their opinion, their support, their praise. Women also think men do not care about many things important to women, which is why they criticize. Criticism is a way to verbalize resentment.

Men and Women both want the same things out of relationship, thats why you need to be with the right partner, who acknowledges you and you also do same...

Understanding Men: Role of women

You as a woman can change all this. You can awaken the feminine in your man and make him see the world through a different light
As a woman it comes natural to you to express the feminine principle.

Even if your man doesn’t outright say it, he wants you to support him in his career choices and activities—or anything else he sets out to accomplish. Let him know you support him. Provide words of encouragement—tell him that you are a team and that you want to help him achieve his personal goals.

Have you heard the phrase, “Men are like rubber bands”? Men need to feel some level of independence, often as a way to relieve stress. It is normal for some men to pull away occasionally, especially in the beginning stages of a relationship, and spring back for emotional closeness once their feeling of independence has been satisfied. Give your man space to pursue his own hobbies and hang out with guy friends and he will look forward to spending time with you. 


I2sabi said...

Hmm!Very Insightful...almost 100% accurate! Was this written by a woman? must relly have her Isht 2geda. you should read this though


Anonymous said...

Surprised it's written by a lady but I commend her efforts for putting all these 2geda cuz it's almost accurate. Give or take 95% correct. She either must be married or she's really got her man on a leash. :)