Wednesday, 23 May 2012

'Plus Size' Sexual Insecurities...Does This Bother You??

Being plus size can make a lot of things in life emotionally uncomfortable. Oftentimes, plus size women find themselves wondering what awful things people are whispering about behind their backs. One of the most uncomfortable moments can happen during sex. All to often plus size insecurities hinder a women's ability to enjoy their sexual side. After all, how can you enjoy sex if you are worried about what your partner is seeing and thinking. 
The first and likely most important thing to keep in mind when having sex with a bigger partner or if you yourself are big is how important it is to keep an open mind. we all wish that we could embark on the perfect sexual adventure every time where things just mesh and fall perfectly into place(pun fully intended), but the reality is that some things need a little work in order to run smoothly.this is especially the same when it comes to sex. Making love is something that you want to enjoy as much as physically possible and the best way to do that is to check your hang ups at the door. you are fat -  so what??  so why stress about it?? Get in there with the attitude that you re there to feel good and make your partner feel good and if it means having to try several positions or pile a few pillows under your pants, then so be it!!! Have a go at some of these and you will be loving you sex live in no time.....
Below are a few things you can help you in overcoming your plus size sexual insecurities.
Set the mood: 

its all in your hands to do what's right and set the right mood...... you have to fancy yourself to be able to set things in the right mood.
Your clothing: 
Most plus size ladies like to hide in their clothing, it's their security blanket. The very nature of sex usually means baring it all, but you don't necessarily have to bare it all to be sexy. There are a lot of clothing options that will not make you feel overexposed, but are sexy enough to get your guy going. Play into his fantasies. You can also purchase lingerie that will light your guy's fire and hide your problem areas. 
Don't over-think it: The most important thing to remember is that in the heat of moment your guy is not looking at your flaws. He isn't paying attention to all those things that consume your thoughts. When you over-think the situation, you aren't doing yourself any favors. Sometimes, just going with the flow and allowing yourself to get carried away, will wash away your insecurities. Remember if he's there with you, he is into you. He is aware of your flaws and is still turned on by you. Don't over-think it, don't push him away, relax and enjoy yourself.
Don't allow your insecurities to get in your way. Talk to your spouse, there is always a chance that some of the "issues" you think you have are the very things he finds sexy. After all, everyone has a different idea of what sexy is. Also, you never know if you open up to him, you may find that he has some insecurities of his own and that could be an opening for you to grow as a couple.

1 comment:

Emmanuel Stevens said...

ye, thats true, som girls that are big.....seem abit insecured sometimes and hide under the shadows of the slim ones, thanks for this post....alot of them willl find this useful